There is perhaps nothing more evidently a sign of love than when a person is willing to buy into the moral character and lifestyle of another.
Think of how pleased a father will be if his son buys into his philosophy of life and chooses to adopt his father's moral principles in life. I can't think of anything, as a father, that would be more gratifying as a child deciding to follow in my footsteps.
Naturally, that isn't expected or pushed, but if a child says, when they are close to adulthood, "I want to be just like dad" that would probably be a sign of love that is greater than anything else I can imagine.
The Bible expresses this concept in several different ways. It speaks of laying down your life for another, and Jesus said that if we love Him, then we would keep His commandments. This isn't an issue of obedience to express love, but rather a demonstration of a person who has bought into the teachings and lifestyle because of love.
I do things for my God, not because I have to, but because I get to. When my wife does things like that for me, when she buys into my vision of the family and our future, is there a more significant sign of true love? I doubt it. When two people so love each other that they alter their own lifestyle, beliefs, and even values to be more in line with the person they love, they have a sure sign of true love.
What greater gift could a person give than to buy into another person's conception and perception on life? To say that you want to be just like another person is an immensely powerful statement of love. This is especially true in a generation that seeks to have fewer ties to people and wishes to be self-made.
I've followed and then blazed beyond the path that my own father walked. And my father couldn't be more pleased. He has both of his sons sharing his value system, his beliefs in God, and his concept of good character. Yes, both my brother and I have bought into my father and mother's lifestyle. And my parents couldn't be more pleased and loved.
If you have someone who is willing to do that for you, know that you have something very special, a sign of true love that is hardly surpassed by any other indicator. What's more, if you are willing to do this for someone else, know that you have found someone that you truly love.
Wednesday, March 17, 2010
How to Know If You're in Love By Gregory Baker
I am assuming here this is in regards to relationships seeking a life time commitment in marriage. I pastor a Church and as such, I love many people. But when we speak of the term 'in love' there is only one person other than my God that fits that description: My wife.
There are a series of questions you may want to ask yourself.
AM I WILLING TO SACRIFICE ANY ASPECTS OF MY LIFE TO BE WITH THIS PERSON?
When it comes to marriage, God meant for a man and a woman in such a relationship to have something meaningful together. I don't necessarily think that you must or will give up your dreams, but unless both are on the same page, the marriage will struggle.
My wife followed me out to Colorado as I believed that God had called me here to pastor. She believed that too. She wanted that too. She and I ended up on the same page and that helped make our marriage such a success. I was willing to not go to Colorado if she didn't. I was willing to wait and seek other avenues because I believed that God calls both me and my wife, not just me.
So ask yourself: Is your career or the future you want more important than the person you think you might love? If it is, you are not in love. Not really. You might be attracted, or infatuated, but you aren't in love.
IS THIS PERSON'S VALUE SYSTEM SIMILAR TO MY OWN?
In other words, do you share similar values, morals, and principles in life? Sharing similar values is what will keep a relationship strong over time. The more values you share, the more security and less fighting you'll do.
Sharing things in common, like chocolate, may have helped to bring you together, but it will be the values you share in life that will keep you together.
My wife and I share similar values on God, child rearing, and marriage. This demonstrates over and over again why we love each other.
DO I NEED THIS PERSON AND DOES THIS PERSON NEED ME?
A relationship, especially a marriage, is built on the ability to contribute essential and missing elements that both individuals need.
I need my wife. I honestly don't know what I would do without her. Intellectually, I know that I could survive and I'll figure out a way. But emotionally, and spiritually, I can't fathom it.
We share a mutually symbiotic relationship. Without her, I am much less and without me, she is much less. Together, there is synergy in our relationship.
This is something that you need to look for. If you really don't need another person, you'll fall out of love as quickly as you fell into it.
DO WE SHARE A SIMILAR VISION OF WHERE OUR RELATIONSHIP WILL GO?
This is essential. A bond, such as a marriage, is predicated on sharing a vision and purpose in life. My wife I and pastor a Church. This is a vision and purpose that we share. Our need for each other, our desire to grow a church, our love of helping people all contribute to our falling in love with each other over and over again.
If you have a vision of the future that is not shared by the other person, you'll have major problems. You'll quickly find that you don't feel as much love for a person that isn't walking beside you in life.
Ask these questions, the positive answers to them all will tell you if you are truly in love or not.
There are a series of questions you may want to ask yourself.
AM I WILLING TO SACRIFICE ANY ASPECTS OF MY LIFE TO BE WITH THIS PERSON?
When it comes to marriage, God meant for a man and a woman in such a relationship to have something meaningful together. I don't necessarily think that you must or will give up your dreams, but unless both are on the same page, the marriage will struggle.
My wife followed me out to Colorado as I believed that God had called me here to pastor. She believed that too. She wanted that too. She and I ended up on the same page and that helped make our marriage such a success. I was willing to not go to Colorado if she didn't. I was willing to wait and seek other avenues because I believed that God calls both me and my wife, not just me.
So ask yourself: Is your career or the future you want more important than the person you think you might love? If it is, you are not in love. Not really. You might be attracted, or infatuated, but you aren't in love.
IS THIS PERSON'S VALUE SYSTEM SIMILAR TO MY OWN?
In other words, do you share similar values, morals, and principles in life? Sharing similar values is what will keep a relationship strong over time. The more values you share, the more security and less fighting you'll do.
Sharing things in common, like chocolate, may have helped to bring you together, but it will be the values you share in life that will keep you together.
My wife and I share similar values on God, child rearing, and marriage. This demonstrates over and over again why we love each other.
DO I NEED THIS PERSON AND DOES THIS PERSON NEED ME?
A relationship, especially a marriage, is built on the ability to contribute essential and missing elements that both individuals need.
I need my wife. I honestly don't know what I would do without her. Intellectually, I know that I could survive and I'll figure out a way. But emotionally, and spiritually, I can't fathom it.
We share a mutually symbiotic relationship. Without her, I am much less and without me, she is much less. Together, there is synergy in our relationship.
This is something that you need to look for. If you really don't need another person, you'll fall out of love as quickly as you fell into it.
DO WE SHARE A SIMILAR VISION OF WHERE OUR RELATIONSHIP WILL GO?
This is essential. A bond, such as a marriage, is predicated on sharing a vision and purpose in life. My wife I and pastor a Church. This is a vision and purpose that we share. Our need for each other, our desire to grow a church, our love of helping people all contribute to our falling in love with each other over and over again.
If you have a vision of the future that is not shared by the other person, you'll have major problems. You'll quickly find that you don't feel as much love for a person that isn't walking beside you in life.
Ask these questions, the positive answers to them all will tell you if you are truly in love or not.
Friday, March 12, 2010
What Do Men Like in a Woman? 3 Signs to Pay Attention To By Tina L. Jones
What are the qualities that attractive women have that unlucky women seem to lack? Is there any way to learn these qualities, or are some women just born with it? To answer the common "what do men like in a woman" question, it may be easier to find out by asking what men DON'T like in women!
#1 - First, men don't like needy women. Remember that most of the "real" men out there have met many women in the past, and if they feel you're a little too eager to get into a relationship, they'll naturally feel disgusted -- and they'll definitely find ways to stay away from you.
#2 - Second, men don't like it if you have to pretend. The better men out there are looking for women who would make great "wife" and "mother" material -- and if you have to fake it, chances are you won't make it!
#3 - Finally, what do men like in a woman? Definitely you'll have to be someone who makes the relationship a fun and exciting place to be. Too many women expect their men to make them happy, not realizing that it takes two people to make any relationship work.
What do men like in a woman? It's basically her ability to keep her own life in line. If a woman is in total control of her life, then she's much more likely to be a great partner. It's a tall order for most of us, but with the right kinds of help and direction, it's always possible to become more attractive in a man's eyes.
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#1 - First, men don't like needy women. Remember that most of the "real" men out there have met many women in the past, and if they feel you're a little too eager to get into a relationship, they'll naturally feel disgusted -- and they'll definitely find ways to stay away from you.
#2 - Second, men don't like it if you have to pretend. The better men out there are looking for women who would make great "wife" and "mother" material -- and if you have to fake it, chances are you won't make it!
#3 - Finally, what do men like in a woman? Definitely you'll have to be someone who makes the relationship a fun and exciting place to be. Too many women expect their men to make them happy, not realizing that it takes two people to make any relationship work.
What do men like in a woman? It's basically her ability to keep her own life in line. If a woman is in total control of her life, then she's much more likely to be a great partner. It's a tall order for most of us, but with the right kinds of help and direction, it's always possible to become more attractive in a man's eyes.
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How to Make a Man Desire You and Only You? Here Are the Ultra Vital Tips You Shouldn't Miss at All By Russell Jackson
Are you looking for ways to make men desire you so much that they would end up wanting to make a commitment with you? Did you know that beautiful and desirable women sort out men by way of selection methods? If you are not blessed with a drop-dead gorgeous looks or body, you can still make any man want you badly. Read on to find out how.
Know the secrets to true beauty. Real beauty does not necessarily have to be what magazines and media imply. It is something which has to be utilized to convey your inner qualities as a person and set yourself apart from other women out there. Of course, looks is a plus factor, but that is not what men only look for in a woman.
Stop making excuses about appearances. Aside from the visual aspect of appearance, there is an aura casted by someone who is attractive. It could be a feeling of pride or confidence. Looking your best means that you feel good about your appearance from within and that would radiate through your body movements.
Be open. The key to a healthy and long relationship is honest and open communication. Even if there are certain things that you disagree, just being resolute about your judgment/s will definitely make him appreciate and respect you. You would lose the trust once you bring in deceit and lying into the relationship.
You got to have self-confidence. Men love women who know what they want and are brave enough to pursue them. Men search for life partners who would help them achieve common goals and dreams.
Give your man a reason to commit. You should spend some quality time together, but make sure not to take out his oxygen. Continue living your personal life in order to give your man his own space and time.
Keep the doors open. You have to be sure that all available options are open until your man has agreed to take the relationship into the next level. If he does not want to commit, then go out and date other men. Be sure to let him know that in order for him to save the relationship, he has to make a commitment.
Give him security. Men who do not feel confident around women would not be able to commit. Therefore, if you want him to make a commitment, then you have to show him that you are a perfect catch by boosting his confidence, accepting his true self and being supportive of his needs.
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Know the secrets to true beauty. Real beauty does not necessarily have to be what magazines and media imply. It is something which has to be utilized to convey your inner qualities as a person and set yourself apart from other women out there. Of course, looks is a plus factor, but that is not what men only look for in a woman.
Stop making excuses about appearances. Aside from the visual aspect of appearance, there is an aura casted by someone who is attractive. It could be a feeling of pride or confidence. Looking your best means that you feel good about your appearance from within and that would radiate through your body movements.
Be open. The key to a healthy and long relationship is honest and open communication. Even if there are certain things that you disagree, just being resolute about your judgment/s will definitely make him appreciate and respect you. You would lose the trust once you bring in deceit and lying into the relationship.
You got to have self-confidence. Men love women who know what they want and are brave enough to pursue them. Men search for life partners who would help them achieve common goals and dreams.
Give your man a reason to commit. You should spend some quality time together, but make sure not to take out his oxygen. Continue living your personal life in order to give your man his own space and time.
Keep the doors open. You have to be sure that all available options are open until your man has agreed to take the relationship into the next level. If he does not want to commit, then go out and date other men. Be sure to let him know that in order for him to save the relationship, he has to make a commitment.
Give him security. Men who do not feel confident around women would not be able to commit. Therefore, if you want him to make a commitment, then you have to show him that you are a perfect catch by boosting his confidence, accepting his true self and being supportive of his needs.
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What Women Want - Is it Really That Tough? By Chris Tyler
You've probably felt this way at one time or another. You want to know what women want, but it seems to change ALL of the time. Just when you think you know what a woman wants, and how to make her want you, she goes and does something to totally mess up your head.
Is there ANYTHING that you can do to really understand what a woman wants?
Here are some tips to understand what women want:
1. A woman wants to attract a man that acts like a man. You don't want to be one of those wimpy pushover types if you really want to understand what a woman wants. Just because the movies show the shy and sensitive guy always getting the girl in the end, doesn't mean that is what really works out here in the real world. If you want to attract a woman, you better make her see you as a MAN!
2. She wants a man that knows how to flirt with her without sounding like a jerk. Flirting with a woman is always a fun thing to do when you know how to do it right. The problem is, most guys either flirt with a woman in a way that makes them seem like a complete jerk, OR, they don't do anything to ignite attraction with her. You have to make her want to flirt back with you over and over if you want to really have her hooked on you.
3. Whatever you do, don't try and be Mr. Perfect to her. This is where so many guys get caught up doing the wrong thing. They think that they have to be perfect in every way to attract a woman, but at the end of the day, all this does is make it seem like you are trying to run a game on her.
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Is there ANYTHING that you can do to really understand what a woman wants?
Here are some tips to understand what women want:
1. A woman wants to attract a man that acts like a man. You don't want to be one of those wimpy pushover types if you really want to understand what a woman wants. Just because the movies show the shy and sensitive guy always getting the girl in the end, doesn't mean that is what really works out here in the real world. If you want to attract a woman, you better make her see you as a MAN!
2. She wants a man that knows how to flirt with her without sounding like a jerk. Flirting with a woman is always a fun thing to do when you know how to do it right. The problem is, most guys either flirt with a woman in a way that makes them seem like a complete jerk, OR, they don't do anything to ignite attraction with her. You have to make her want to flirt back with you over and over if you want to really have her hooked on you.
3. Whatever you do, don't try and be Mr. Perfect to her. This is where so many guys get caught up doing the wrong thing. They think that they have to be perfect in every way to attract a woman, but at the end of the day, all this does is make it seem like you are trying to run a game on her.
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What Women Want - Is it Really That Tough? By Chris Tyler
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You've probably felt this way at one time or another. You want to know what women want, but it seems to change ALL of the time. Just when you think you know what a woman wants, and how to make her want you, she goes and does something to totally mess up your head.
Is there ANYTHING that you can do to really understand what a woman wants?
Here are some tips to understand what women want:
1. A woman wants to attract a man that acts like a man. You don't want to be one of those wimpy pushover types if you really want to understand what a woman wants. Just because the movies show the shy and sensitive guy always getting the girl in the end, doesn't mean that is what really works out here in the real world. If you want to attract a woman, you better make her see you as a MAN!
2. She wants a man that knows how to flirt with her without sounding like a jerk. Flirting with a woman is always a fun thing to do when you know how to do it right. The problem is, most guys either flirt with a woman in a way that makes them seem like a complete jerk, OR, they don't do anything to ignite attraction with her. You have to make her want to flirt back with you over and over if you want to really have her hooked on you.
3. Whatever you do, don't try and be Mr. Perfect to her. This is where so many guys get caught up doing the wrong thing. They think that they have to be perfect in every way to attract a woman, but at the end of the day, all this does is make it seem like you are trying to run a game on her.
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You've probably felt this way at one time or another. You want to know what women want, but it seems to change ALL of the time. Just when you think you know what a woman wants, and how to make her want you, she goes and does something to totally mess up your head.
Is there ANYTHING that you can do to really understand what a woman wants?
Here are some tips to understand what women want:
1. A woman wants to attract a man that acts like a man. You don't want to be one of those wimpy pushover types if you really want to understand what a woman wants. Just because the movies show the shy and sensitive guy always getting the girl in the end, doesn't mean that is what really works out here in the real world. If you want to attract a woman, you better make her see you as a MAN!
2. She wants a man that knows how to flirt with her without sounding like a jerk. Flirting with a woman is always a fun thing to do when you know how to do it right. The problem is, most guys either flirt with a woman in a way that makes them seem like a complete jerk, OR, they don't do anything to ignite attraction with her. You have to make her want to flirt back with you over and over if you want to really have her hooked on you.
3. Whatever you do, don't try and be Mr. Perfect to her. This is where so many guys get caught up doing the wrong thing. They think that they have to be perfect in every way to attract a woman, but at the end of the day, all this does is make it seem like you are trying to run a game on her.
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How to Create a Successful First Date By Truong Le Hong
Dating can be a fun process on the way to finding your perfect match. First dates in particular can be nerve wracking, but there are several things you can do to ensure that your date will go well. Below, we'll share with you a few tips on how to have a successful first date and how to keep the evening flowing smoothly.
Strike a conversation
During the first date, you will be getting to know the person you are with and that person will become familiar with who you are. Remember, first impressions do count. Your date will wake up the next morning remembering their date last night and you'll want them to have good things to focus on. For the first date, it's best to keep conversation to light hearted topics rather than serious ones. You can feel out your date to see if he/she is ready to talk about serious matters. If not, just ask some light questions to get to know them better. You can ask them about their life and what plans they have for the future, but try to be light hearted and genuinely interested in what they have to say.
Be genuine
Although you may be nervous, try your best to be yourself. Laugh at their funny remarks and show interest in what they have to say. A successful first date will be one where you are genuinely interested in your date. Be sure to make eye contact and follow their lead if they are ready to move into another topic of conversation.
Be attractive
If you want to set a good impression, one step is to dress nice. Part of the first impression is visual. Although it's not appropriate to judge a book by its cover, the truth is appearance does count and it makes a difference in your overall impression. You could consider dressing to accentuate your best features but remember to be comfortable. You won't want to spend your first date in uncomfortable attire that could distract your attention away from the person you're with.
Strike a conversation
During the first date, you will be getting to know the person you are with and that person will become familiar with who you are. Remember, first impressions do count. Your date will wake up the next morning remembering their date last night and you'll want them to have good things to focus on. For the first date, it's best to keep conversation to light hearted topics rather than serious ones. You can feel out your date to see if he/she is ready to talk about serious matters. If not, just ask some light questions to get to know them better. You can ask them about their life and what plans they have for the future, but try to be light hearted and genuinely interested in what they have to say.
Be genuine
Although you may be nervous, try your best to be yourself. Laugh at their funny remarks and show interest in what they have to say. A successful first date will be one where you are genuinely interested in your date. Be sure to make eye contact and follow their lead if they are ready to move into another topic of conversation.
Be attractive
If you want to set a good impression, one step is to dress nice. Part of the first impression is visual. Although it's not appropriate to judge a book by its cover, the truth is appearance does count and it makes a difference in your overall impression. You could consider dressing to accentuate your best features but remember to be comfortable. You won't want to spend your first date in uncomfortable attire that could distract your attention away from the person you're with.
Romantic Lines to Say to Her - SEDUCE Her With Nothing But Your Words! By Derek Rake
When you're cuddling with her (whether at the park or on the bed after making love), it's a good time to feed her with romantic lines so that she falls further in love with you. Now you have got to step up to the plate and say something that will make her fall head over heels for you... otherwise you will shoot yourself in the foot. Read on for some killer lines which you can use - guaranteed to make her want to jump into the sack with you...
Romantic Lines To Say To Her - SEDUCE Her With Nothing But Your Words!
Killer Line #1: "You're sexy!" Understand this - no matter if the woman is as hot as Angelina Jolie or as fat as Roseanne Barr, she WILL feel insecure. If you are able to reassure her that she's hot in your eyes, then she will be emotionally addicted to you.
Killer Line #2: "You're all I want, and I need". Use this line if you truly appreciate what she brings to the table. Now if you don't mean it, don't say it - a woman will be able to pick up your fakery a mile away... no matter how sweet the line is. Beware!
Killer Line #3: "I'd rather be here with you than anywhere else in the world". She knows that she is competing for your time with the Wii, Playboy magazine and your drinking buddies. She will be happy to know that you'd rather spend time with her than playing computer games, looking at busty women and getting drunk!
Romantic Lines To Say To Her - SEDUCE Her With Nothing But Your Words!
Killer Line #1: "You're sexy!" Understand this - no matter if the woman is as hot as Angelina Jolie or as fat as Roseanne Barr, she WILL feel insecure. If you are able to reassure her that she's hot in your eyes, then she will be emotionally addicted to you.
Killer Line #2: "You're all I want, and I need". Use this line if you truly appreciate what she brings to the table. Now if you don't mean it, don't say it - a woman will be able to pick up your fakery a mile away... no matter how sweet the line is. Beware!
Killer Line #3: "I'd rather be here with you than anywhere else in the world". She knows that she is competing for your time with the Wii, Playboy magazine and your drinking buddies. She will be happy to know that you'd rather spend time with her than playing computer games, looking at busty women and getting drunk!
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